Things Not to Say to a Caregiver
Even well-intentioned comments can land in ways that feel dismissive. What caregivers often need most is presence, empathy, and listening.
She also passed along an article that many of you may find helpful: Things Not to Say to a Caregiver. It highlights how even well-intentioned comments can sometimes land in ways that feel dismissive, minimizing, or unhelpful. A few examples stood out:
- “I know how you feel.” Each caregiving journey is unique; comparisons can unintentionally erase the individuality of someone’s struggle.
- “You should take better care of yourself.” While self-care is important, this kind of statement can feel like judgment rather than support.
- “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle.” Meant to encourage, but often received as pressure to be strong instead of permission to feel overwhelmed.
The article is a helpful reminder that what caregivers often need most is presence, empathy, and listening—rather than advice or platitudes. And it’s also something we can extend outward—sharing with friends, family, or faith communities who want to help but may not know how.